Category: Helping People Thrive

two people in a canoe paddling in opposite directions

Paddling in Opposite Directions

Tired.Frustrated.Demotivated.  So much time, energy, and money expended. And yet we’re still in the same spot on the lake.  I’m angry at them. They’re angry at me.  I’m working hard! We’re getting nowhere. It must be THEIR fault.  If one of the people in the canoe changed direction, in just a few minutes there would be more progress…
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Relationships Matter When Leading Change

Building relationships isn’t a distraction from the work – it IS the work.  Leading people and leading change requires providing a clear destination, guiding people to align, and supporting them to get where they need to go. No matter the type or size of the change, each individual will be called upon to change how…
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Person stuck at a barrier with a clear path behind and to the left of him

Your Path Forward May Be Behind You

Did you “go on a lion hunt” as a child?  Going on a lion hunt.Gonna catch a big one.I’m not scared. Uh oh!  A log.Can’t go over it. Can’t go under it.Can’t go through it.Gotta go around it! As children, we knew the best way was around, but as adults, we often get to a barricade and…
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sad child holding a teddy bear

Childhood: The Root of the Stories We Tell Ourselves

*trigger warning – aggressive relationship experiences I can see their anger building.  I know the explosion is coming.  My heart races.  My brain goes into autopilot.  I can stop this.  I must stop this.  I tried to walk on eggshells.  To keep the peace.  It didn’t work.  I’m so used to being here.  I react…
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Everything was not fine

Everything Was Not Fine

“We don’t get a lot of complaints around here” It was true.  People did not complain.  – They did as they were told. – They put in the long hours needed to get their jobs done.  – They made the most of the “open-door policy,” frequenting their manager’s office to ask questions and understand how the Manager…
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Why Are We Stuck?

Why are we stuck doing things that aren’t a good investment of our time and energy? In a recent post, I noted that if you’re like many leaders, you’re spending a lot of your time, energy, and money in three main areas that are holding you back from doing your best to lead people and achieve…
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Are You Making the Most of Your Resources?

If you’re like many leaders, you’re spending a lot of your time, energy, and money in three main areas that are holding you back from doing your best to lead people and achieve success: FIREFIGHTING 🧯 Managing emergencies, reacting to unexpected problems, trying to quickly resolve symptoms with a patchwork of temporary and often ineffective…
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Bucket filling

Leadership Tip: Fill the Bucket

Every person has an emotional bucket for their relationships. We have a bucket for every relationship we are in, including our relationship with ourselves. When the bucket is full, we feel a high sense of trust and safety in the relationship. The bucket is filled with positive interactions that feel good and build trust, giving…
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No pizza

Pizza is Not a Solution

Almost every caring, intelligent leader I’ve met has at some point attempted to solve a morale, motivation, or engagement problem with a pizza party. In our linear-thinking world, when faced with a problem, we often respond immediately with “we need more ____.”  We need more people We need more time We need more money We…
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Thoughts Feelings Behaviour and Results are all connected

Thinking It Through

Our thoughts, feelings, behaviour, and results are all connected. Every result we get comes from the “story we tell ourselves,” which means we can often change our outcomes by changing our thinking. Here’s an example: Issue: The Purchasing Manager is not doing their job well.  They’ve missed deadlines and made errors.  They take long lunch…
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